International Mr Leather Titleholders

Jack is biracial. He’s gay. He’s transgender. He’s extremely kinky, depending on what scale you use to measure such things. Jack is also utterly transparent about all that he is, to a disarming degree. His speech at the IML competition (“You are enough.”) laid bare all of his identities and became an instant viral meme. Over breakfast at his favorite diner in his newly adopted home city of Baltimore, Jack discussed coming out (as many things), sex, drugs, HIV — and his reaction to a transphobic social media post by a leather community leader that nearly eclipsed the drama of Jack’s win at IML. Here is our conversation, edited for length and clarity. Mark S. King: You spend a lot of time here, at Valentino’s Restaurant? Jack Thompson: Oh yeah, they’re open 24/7. I can have breakfast any time of the day. You’re running around already as Mr. IML. Just this weekend, you were in DC for Pride, then up to Philly, and then back here for an event at The Eagle in Baltimore. Yeah, after IML there isn’t much of a break. You run right in to Pride. And being on the east coast you can get to so many different places for events. Your husband, Geoff Millard, was 1st Runner Up for Mr. Bootblack at IML this year. His was 1st Runner Up for Mr. IML in 2017, too. He’s the first person to place in both events. I’m ignorant. I think Mr. IML is for the big dominant guys, and Mr. Bootblack is for the submissive ones. Unless you are running for a “Boy” title or a “Master” title, you can identify as anything you want. I identify as a submissive. My husband identifies as a Daddy. But a lot of people have that idea, that you compete for IML and put on that leather cap, and you are the domest dom in all of dom town. I went to IML once, more than a decade ago, but only because I was living off the remnants of my muscle boy body and I wanted to strut around in a harness. That’s 90% of the people who go to IML. Yeah, but I also never left the hotel. I stayed in my room shooting up crystal meth and having sex. For five days without sleep. I have so much shame and regret about it. Do you see much of that? Does it concern you? It’s a community problem. I’ve seen it for years, and seen friends’ lives destroyed for periods of time. And there’s people who just assume you do drugs because you go to these events. Actually, there are more and more spaces for sober people there. There’s been an explosion of trans awareness over the last few years. My trans activist friends would point out that this has been a long, hard road, though. I came out as trans when I was 15 (living in the Bay area). That was 18 years ago. And it was exploding because there were a lot of hate crimes going on. I know several trans men who were lesbians first, who thought they must be, before they realized they were trans. And gay. It’s a perfect example of the difference between gender and sexuality. I didn’t even start dating men until I met my husband. I still am attracted to women. It gets very deep very fast between us, with women. I just got out of a long relationship with a woman about a year ago.

Mr International Leather 2018: James Lee The highlight of the festivities is undoubtedly the crowning of the new International Mr Leather. This year’s winner is James Lee of Lexington, Kentucky. Lee triumphed over 70 other contestants. They heralded from countries as far afield as Italy, Australia, Israel, France and Mexico. James Lee, Mr Kentucky Leather, now Mr International Leather 2018 James Lee, Mr Kentucky Leather 2017, now Mr International LeatheA long-time leather fan, Lee mentors LGBTQ+ youth in his home state. He has volunteered at North American Bear, Tri-State, Kentucky CoronaNon, Pride Lexington and Pride Louisville. He has also organized and promoted a variety of LGBTI and Leather events. Asked what it was like to win the title, he said: ‘It’s a stamp of approval, it’s a acknowledgement of hard-work and success. It’s knowing you have brothers and sisters around the world that accept you just the way you are and are your support system day in day out. ‘It’s knowing your community is growing and evolving, and it’s being a leader to those who are looking for encouragement and acceptance. He revealed that he had only recently overcome personal tragedy and found the strength to compete. ‘This journey has not been a walk in the park. It’s been a fiery swim through hell. Losing my partner of 9.5 years right before all of it made me want to walk away from it all … including life. ‘My Leather community, blood and chosen family made sure I would build new and strong a way to survive.’ He said that winning the title was, ‘Overwhelmingly awesome and insanely shocking and unforgettable.’

Mr International Leather 2018: Ralph Bruneau

Mr International Leather 2018: David Bailey.......Chicago, IL - David "Tigger" Bailey, Mr. New Jersey Leather 2016, was named International Mr. Leather 2016 at the 38th annual IML Competition in Chicago Sunday, May 29. Over 2,000 leather enthusiasts packed The Harris Theatre for the annual competition where Bailey became the 38th person to claim the coveted leather title. Bailey bested a field of 60 contestants from 25 states and seven countries, including the competition's first competitor from Israel. Participants were judged on stage presence and personality ("pecs and personality"), leather image, presentation skills, and physical appearance.

Mr International Leather 2015: Patrick Smith - In 2015, Smith competed in a class of 6 contestants and became Eagle LA Mr. Leather. Two months later, he competed against the nine other Los Angeles-area titleholders to become Mr. Los Angeles Leather. Over the next six weeks, Smith trained for International Mr. Leather with a team including Charlie Matula and Hunter Fox, producers of the Eagle LA Mr. Leather and Mr. LA Leather contests, Mike Gerle, International Mr. Leather 2007, and Lou Romano, former Mr. Oil Can Harry’s Leather and handler to Gerle at IML. In May 2015, Smith competed among a class of 52 and won the International Mr. Leather title. International Mr. Leather Smith traveled over 106,000 miles during his title year, and was gone from Los Angeles for 37 of the 52 weekends. Smith’s stated mission as IML was to broaden the reach of the leather community beyond its core following. As part of this, he spoke at non-leather related forums including at the First Unitarian Church of Los Angeles, and hosted events such as the official pool party at Gay Days Anaheim. International Activism Patrick Smith in The Advocate. Coverage of Smith’s trip to Uganda in The Advocate. In September 2015, Smith traveled alone to Uganda to meet with gay rights activists, to learn about the experience of sexual minorities in African countries with repressive laws against homosexuality. He followed up his trip with visits to other countries considered hostile to sexual minorities, including Ukraine, Egypt, Morocco and Trinidad and Tobago. Upon the conclusion of his travels, Smith returned home to raise money and awareness for sexual minorities in countries in which they are persecuted. In March 2016, Smith was featured on the cover of The Fight Magazine under the headline, “They Kill Gays, Don’t They?” He received a certificate of recognition from Los Angeles Mayor Eric Garcetti, for his “dedicated efforts and untiring advocacy on behalf of disadvantaged LGBT domestic and global communities.” In his IML step-down speech, Smith announced he would be continuing his international advocacy work with the Harvey Milk Foundation.

Ramien Pierre, International Mr. Leather 2014[/caption] Growing up gay isn’t easy Growing up in leather is even harder We’ve come a long way But we have a lot further to go. Whether in leather or lace Whether in white collar or blue We need to talk to each other To try to understand each other To work together To strengthen the bonds we have already fashioned If we use our god-given gifts: Our intellects to know what is right Our wills to do what is right with compassion and love We better ourselves And the world around us. As International Mr. Leather I hope to bring all minorities together In the brotherhood we share Those words aren’t mine. They are the words of Ron Moore, and he said them in 1984 as his contestant speech for IML. Ron Moore was the first black man to win the IML title. Let me give you the history of black IMLs. Don’t worry. It won’t take long Ron Moore was came to IML in 1984 as Mr. Leather Colorado. The second black man to receive the title was Dee Cannon who came to IML in 1991 as Mr. CC of Palm Springs. Then there’s me. That’s it. History lesson over. Ron made his transition from this Earth in 1997. Dee’s whereabouts are unknown. And that is why on Tuesday I am petitioning for federal protection as endangered species. I want to ensure that future generations of perverts will be able to enjoy me via educational field trips to my holding compound — the Tom of Finland House. Because Black IML Lives Matter. IMLs in general need your support. As titleholders we are by definition delicate and precious flowers. I’ve enjoyed quite a bit of support this year. I have the best partner/boyfriend/barber — Kudjo Tankhead Onyx Brown … or whatever his Facebook name is today. I’ve had the support of the best bar in the world — the DC Eagle. The DC Eagle is back, and though the construction isn’t complete, the Deathstar is fully operational. I’ve had the support of my clubs. I’m an Associate Member of La Garou, a club for leather transmen. They throw a great CampOUT run in July where you are 100% guaranteed NOT to be bitten by spiders. I’m also member of ONYX and I want to give them a shout out. I’m sure they are in the house, out there in the inky shadows. Who am I kidding? As a fraternity for leathermen of color they ARE the inky shadows. I’ve had the support of an amazing sash family. Scout MY International Mr. Bootlback. Grumpy or no, you are mine and I love you. Patty Patty — an IMsL so nice they named her twice. And Dara who apparently had better things to do this weekend. And I couldn’t have done this year without the IML staff and volunteers. These folks have all be looking after me all year, and it’s been my privilege to hold this title for a year and return it in as good as condition as I found it. Truly, it’s been a privilege. Privilege has been getting a bad reputation recently. And as the sum total of all IML blackness on this planet I want to say something about it. I first learned about privilege when I read Dr. Peggy McIntosh’s essay “Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack”. It’s a piece she wrote in 1988 where she talked about the unearned privileges she had as an American, white woman. In the late ’90s I had the opportunity to work with Dr. McIntosh on a project and she told me why privilege often gets a bad reputation. She said that for most of us, our first awareness of privilege is an unpleasant experience. Either we realize we have it and someone else doesn’t and as a result we feel guilty. Or we realize that we don’t have it and someone else does so we feel resentful and frustrated. Another person who worked on that same project was Lorene Cary who wrote the book “Black Ice” about her experience as a working class kid attending a prestigious East Coast boarding school — something that she and I have in common. Lorene told me that yes, there is no privilege without responsibility, but that the first responsibility of people with privilege is to enjoy their privilege. To enjoy it. And that’s what I did this title year. I’ve been enjoying my IML privilege. I’ve used it to travel across this country and across three continents. I’ve used it to learn important cultural international phrases. I can say “thank you” in Italian. I can say “on your knees” in German. And I can say, “I will perform sexual favors for baked goods” in French. Because I have a sweet tooth. All that is privilege. And all of that has been my job as IML. Enjoying that IML privilege hasn’t always been easy, because I’m an introvert, and we work differently than extroverts. Extroverts get their energy from interacting with people, and being in the crowd, and going to events. If my life is an example, then introverts we introverts get our energy from a combination of alone time, Netflix bingeing, comfort food, coffee and tequila. There are other differences. If you have a 10-minute conversation with an extrovert and you don’t know what’s important to them, then you haven’t been listening. If you have a 10-minute conversation with an introvert and you don’t know what’s important to them, then you haven’t been asking the right questions. And I’m talking about questions that come from a genuine curiosity. Not like the questions we tend to ask which are just statements in disguise. You know, like: * Do you really think that’s a good idea? * Do these pants make my crotch look big? * Does this hanky smell like chloroform to you? Joey McDonald got me with that one…. four times… because I’m pretty. I love good questions. One of the questions I’ve gotten number of times this year was about my contestant speech last year. People liked it but what sure what I was really trying to say. It’s hard to be clear and poignant and meaningful in 90-seconds. And they wanted to know if my whole “you are a enough” theme had some meat to it, or was it just something I pulled out of the ether while watching Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday (YOU are enough! And YOU are enough! Everybody is E-NOUGH!). So I’ll break it down for you. You sir [point to someone in the audience]. You look at me and you might say: wow that Ramien really has his shit together. He’s got a job, a boyfriend, a title. He seems reasonable, cultured, and smart. He’s easy on the eyes. I can see why the judges selected him and if I were closer I might not only see it, I might touch it and taste it too. But THIS guy that you’re seeing wasn’t named IML 2014. It was THAT guy — the Ramien who was here last year. Let me tell you about THAT guy. He’s a hot mess. That guy has stranger danger. That guy is a neurotic overachiever. That guy cries at Sally Field movies… or anytime he touches a woman. But if it wasn’t for THAT guy, THIS guy wouldn’t be here. And as human beings we tend to dismiss THAT guy and pay all of our attention to THIS guy. We tend to give all our praise to THIS guy and ignore or shame THAT guy. What I was trying to say last year is THAT guy… THAT guy was good enough to get me here to THIS guy. And if that’s true for me, then maybe it’s true for you. So love on THAT guy. Even if you don’t like THAT guy. Even if you want to change THAT guy. Love him FIRST. You gotta love him to leave him. Take that Oprah. Maybe that could be my job. To be a leather Oprah. Maybe not. But I know one thing: I know it is NOT my job to represent you. I can’t represent you. I mean look at you. No, I’m just kidding, you all look amazing… out there in the dark. Inky shadows are your color. Representing you is not my job, and I can prove it to you. Alright show of hands: * How many of you were at IML last year? * How many of you came to any part of the contest last year? * How many of you voted for me to be IML? Anyone? Anyone? [point out the people who are too drunk/confused and kept their hands up] See if you voted for me then I could be your representative. But you didn’t. That’s not how this things works. That’s not how any of this works. Representing you is not my job. But I love my job as IML. And I love this weekend. This is my second IML ever, and I plan on having a very good time. I hope you are too. This is a weekend is like a leather family reunion. It’s a time to embrace the highest-fidelity version of yourself and express it… often with on and in other people. And it’s about fun. Now earlier I said there is no privilege without responsibility, so I’m going to get serious for a minute. You know that I’m serious because I’ve asked the crew for serious lighting. Thank you crew. One of the charities I support is Rainbow Railroad. They are a registered charitable organization based in Canada, and they save LGTB lives. They find LGTB people around the world who are targets of state-enabled violence and persecution in places like Uganda, Iran, and the Caribbean. They find them. They get them to safe places in their country. And then they get them out of their countries to safe havens primarily in the US, Canada, and Netherlands. They are saving our brothers and sisters. And they need your help. We are working on a campaign to save five gay men living in Jamaica. And by living I mean that these men have been shunned by their families, and are living on the streets. They were living in a storm drain until it was blocked off by the police. We need $34K to get these men out of the country, and resettled somewhere safe where they will have the support of social services. Here’s what you can do: You can give $34K, and we’ll wrap this thing up right now. If you can’t give $34K, then you can give something smaller. Give $15. You can spread the word about this campaign, because maybe someone in your network can give $34K… or $15. You can do all or any of those things. If you want to learn more you can go to my Facebook page, or you can go to rainbowrailroad.ca Thank you for considering this. Okay. Serious time over. I’ll tell you one last thing before I go, and it’s my big takeaway from my title year. I finally figured out what my job as IML was. Well actually someone else figured it out for me. I was at CLAW last month and someone broke it down for me exactly what my job was. I was socializing in the hotel lobby when someone said, “Ramien, I’ve been watching you your entire title year, and I wanted to let you know that you are a good example of being a good example. And that’s exactly what our community needs. Thank you and bless you.” And that was an ah-ha moment for me: “a good example of being a good example”. That’s a great job to have, right? And I was touched too. I mean it was a thoughtful and sincere compliment, and I didn’t want to just brush it off with that stereotypical titleholder smile and a “thank you so much”. I wanted to say something meaningful and heartfelt. So I took a beat and said, “Hey you… I’m over here. That’s Justin Terry-Smith you’re talking to!” Because sometimes that happens. You have to know your negroes. Get the app. Available on iTunes. My name is Ramien Pierre I live in Baltimore, MD with the best boyfriend in the world I am International Mr. Leather 2014 I am Mr. DC Eagle 2014 My preferred personal pronouns are “he”, “him” and “his” I love you all. And you are each important to me. Have a good night and and great weekend.

Andy Cross, the current International Mr. Leather (IML) titleholder, will be in Minneapolis this weekend as one of the judges of the Mr. Minneapolis Eagle 2014 contest. I recently called him in San Francisco and asked a few questions. Did you have any childhood inklings that leather might someday be an interest of yours? My first memory of leather—and it has stuck with me all these years, so it’s pretty formidable, I guess—is when my uncle, my father’s brother, came to visit us one time. He was a motorcycle guy and came in wearing chaps and a leather jacket. I wasn’t so much attracted to him as attracted to the leather. I remember, he let me wear his jacket, and I thought it was the coolest thing. I loved the smell of it. There was just something that was inherently manly and sexy about the leather for some reason. And it’s been a turn-on ever since. What went through your mind when your name was called as International Mr. Leather 2013? It was so great because I wasn’t expecting it at all. And I think the thing that meant the most to me was that there were a lot of San Francisco people in the audience, some of the guys who had helped me prepare. How has your title year been so far? It’s been busy, but it’s been fantastic. It’s definitely been the ride of my life. I’ve met so many people and seen so many cool things. One of the most rewarding things is that I’ve had the opportunity to visit communities and tell them what other communities do. For instance, one of my very first trips was to Des Moines, and they have a really large young leather community there—which is fantastic! Then I go to another community, and in talking to them they say that they don’t have the young leather community. I have the opportunity to spread the fire, so to speak, and say Des Moines does this, and it attracted all these young people. And I get to visit cool places. I was in Alaska a few weeks ago. I’m going to Europe in a few months. I was in Texas a few days ago. And I’m going to Los Angeles on Thursday. And you’re coming to Minneapolis to be one of the judges for this year’s Mr. Minneapolis Eagle Contest. I am. I’m looking forward to it. What other contests have you judged as IML? I’ve judged Mr. Michigan Leather, and I just judged the Mr. Third Coast Leather contest in Houston. Next week I judge the Mr. Regiment Leather contest in L.A. I have a lot of contests coming up in November, and also in January and February. As you judge the Mr. Minneapolis Eagle contest, what will you be looking for? I’ll be looking for someone that I want to talk to. Especially in an interview, I’m not necessarily looking at the content of their answers or what their opinions on certain things are, because everyone has their own opinions. I’m looking to see if they’re genuinely a nice guy, and if I approached them in a bar or at a party, would I want to talk to them? Would I want to hear what the leather community is like in Minneapolis if they were telling me? That’s really the most important thing that I look for. What do you want to accomplish during your title year? That was actually one of my questions during the IML interview. The question actually was, fast-forward a year and you’re IML—what would you want to be remembered for? And my answer was kind of what I already said, being a conduit of information between regions or communities. I mean, that’s how we grow as a community, and that’s how we change, and I think growing and changing is essential. Have you thought about what you want to do after your title year is over? Sleep in at least for one weekend! But other than that, like I said before, I’m having the ride of my life, and I love it right now. So I guess I’ll have to cross that bridge when it comes.