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When learning about personal safety and BDSM you likely hear the word safeword more than once. A safeword is used as a last resort when you need the play you are engaged in to end. But there’s an unintentional negative stigma surrounding using your safeword that needs to be understood. You are not a failure … Read more
Thoughts on Protocol – “The Invisible Leash” by Sir-Marko I consider myself to be a relatively low protocol Dominant, though with the passage of time and a growing maturity in my D/s relationship, that is gradually changing. There is a lot of debate and even more misunderstanding surrounding what protocol is and how it can … Read more
1) Some Scenes Will Get Fouled, And That’s Okay. This is a high-wire act we’re doing, this blending of pain, terror, and pleasure. Sometimes despite all the safety, you lose balance and fall. On the good nights, you do your Domly Dom thing and shove her to her knees, yank down her panties, and apply … Read more
The Ultimate Thrill Ride: Ten Tips for BDSM Safety By Joey W. Hill, 11/20/2012 There is a growing interest in bondage in the bedroom, and many of my readers are giving it a try in an effort to spice up their sex lives. It’s fun and feels a little bit dangerous, like a roller coaster, … Read more
The Top Ten Breeches of BDSM Etiquette By Mistress Ren Growing up, we are taught the importance of etiquette – societal etiquette, business etiquette, etiquette for Grandma’s house, etc. Good etiquette is our way of showing others that we respect them. Having been in the scene for quite a while, I’ve witnessed my share of … Read more
sexual self-awareness: This would be the skill of understanding your own sexuality including (but of course not limited to): gender identification; gender preferences; kinks; fetish’s; Power dynamics etc. It would also include your ability to understand any influences and causes of these preferences/interests and the impact that that these can have on your thoughts, behaviours, … Read more
You’ve read our primer on how to share your fantasies with someone new, now you’re ready to actually act out those fantasies. Here’s what you need to know to help make your fantasies a reality. Make Sure Your Partner Understands Exactly What You Want If you were at all nervous about sharing your fantasy with … Read more
Sometimes sharing your fantasies is as easy as, “hey, I’m into XYZ. Want to do it with me?” But not all of us have that level of comfort with our desires. Here’s how to feel more at ease divulging your fantasies. Get Comfortable with Those Fantasies First It’s really hard to ask someone to do … Read more