How not to be shitty at parties – voyeurs and exhibitionists edition by SecondCircleTO

How not to be shitty at parties – voyeurs and exhibitionists edition SecondCircleTO original post I’m putting this here, on the events profile, because this is a thing that profoundly irks me, and I want people who go to our events to get it – and the vast majority of you do. Also, for the … Read more

Hanky Codes

This following info is brought to you from http://www.thetwilightguard.org/ The Hanky Code (also known as the handkerchief code, the bandana code, and flagging) is a color-coded system, employed usually among the gay male or practitioners in the leather subculture in the United States, Canada, and Europe, to indicate preferred sexual fetishes, what kind of sex … Read more

Checklist – communication tool

Filling Out a Fetish/ Kink/ BDSM Checklist – a Guide for New Submissives and Dominants by Bea Amor In all my attempts to advise new submissives, I always tell them to fill out their BDSM/ kink checklist and to fill one out with each new Dominant in order to find out whether they actually fit … Read more

Changing Your Relationship With Pain by vahavta

Since joining the more public fetish community a bit over a year ago, I’ve frequently received messages – first, from people who’d seen me scene in public, then from people who’d seen pictures of me post-scene on mine or another’s profile – that basically came down to, “teach me to be a masochist like you!! … Read more

Why vetting shouldn’t be relied on, and what you should do instead by SubversiveKitten

TL:DR version: an over reliance on vetting creates a false sense of security that I believe to be incredibly dangerous. We need to recognize the limits of public vetting, and take our own precautions. There are no life guards on duty. Play at your own risk. Once again a member of the Calgary community has … Read more