BDSM 101 – the First Aid Kit – an Essential for Your Toy Bag What Do I Put in My BDSM First Aid Kit? by Bea Amor BDSM practitioner should have a first aid kit and taking a first aid course is probably the best idea you could have. I am going to share with … Read more
What BDSM is not I was recently reminded how much I dislike it when people are so passionate about their own opinions that they assume their way is the only right way, and that reminded me of this essay written in 2005. I hope someone out there finds it useful or interesting, and I hope … Read more
What I am writing here is predicated on the desire for a dom and sub to develop a meaningful relationship that can be lasting. Meaning long-term and not just based on short-term physical attraction, purely lustful desires, or kinky curiosities. This is about the conscious and unconscious emotional characteristics that will enable the dominant and … Read more
When learning about personal safety and BDSM you likely hear the word safeword more than once. A safeword is used as a last resort when you need the play you are engaged in to end. But there’s an unintentional negative stigma surrounding using your safeword that needs to be understood. You are not a failure … Read more
Thoughts on Protocol – “The Invisible Leash” by Sir-Marko I consider myself to be a relatively low protocol Dominant, though with the passage of time and a growing maturity in my D/s relationship, that is gradually changing. There is a lot of debate and even more misunderstanding surrounding what protocol is and how it can … Read more
1) Some Scenes Will Get Fouled, And That’s Okay. This is a high-wire act we’re doing, this blending of pain, terror, and pleasure. Sometimes despite all the safety, you lose balance and fall. On the good nights, you do your Domly Dom thing and shove her to her knees, yank down her panties, and apply … Read more
The Ultimate Thrill Ride: Ten Tips for BDSM Safety By Joey W. Hill, 11/20/2012 There is a growing interest in bondage in the bedroom, and many of my readers are giving it a try in an effort to spice up their sex lives. It’s fun and feels a little bit dangerous, like a roller coaster, … Read more
The theory and practice of GINGER FIGGING “Figging” is a name for a practice involving the use of ginger root for stimulation. It’s a practice with historical roots; allegedly, this technique was developed during Victorian times as a way to discipline wayward women. In any event, it’s great fun for people who enjoy moderate to fairly … Read more