If you haven’t heard me say this yet, here goes again: being into BDSM doesn’t mean you have to be into sadomasochism or “scening” (engaging in “scenes”). Having scenes doesn’t mean you have to be into sadomasochism either. And finally, being into sadomasochism doesn’t mean you have to be into dominance and submission. The acronym … Read more
In the lifestyle, we talk a lot about the importance of good communication skills. What do good communication skills entail? A lot of things. One of the most important of them all is being able to really listen. While listening skills are often overlooked in a relationship, they are one of the most critical aspects … Read more
Below are listed some negotiation questions I use as a top to better learn about my bottoms, their character, and their interest in play. It took me the better part of a year to figure out these questions, as some of my play partners might note that early negotiations with me consisted mostly of health … Read more
Scene Negotiation for the s type So you want to play and you are so hungry, that you don’t think or care to discuss limits. If you are about to play with someone you have NOT SEEN do a scene with anyone before, chances are you are putting yourself in danger. At the very least … Read more
BDSM for Beginners – Safewords Red, Yellow, Green Are Just Words and Mean NOTHING by Themselves! by Caged Heart Beginning Explorers in the BDSM World hear a lot of advice from more experienced ‘players’. Unfortunately, a lot of that advice is worth nothing more than it costs…NOTHING. A person new to BDSM might hear, “Oh, … Read more
NO is a safeword – unless you negotiate otherwise– Moon_Dancer I hate the phrase “no is not a safeword” and have found myself the victim of non-consensual violence with this used as an excuse. The only time no is not a safeword is when participating in negotiated consensual non-consent. I think we have forgotten what … Read more
PRIDE and FETISH FLAG GALLERY Common symbols of pride are the rainbow pride flag, the lowercase Greek letter lambda (λ), and the pink and black triangle. This last symbol was reclaimed from use as badges of shame in Nazi concentration camps, and through reappropriation have made these symbols for gay rights. The Greek letter lambda … Read more
In the lifestyle, we talk a lot about the importance of good communication skills. What do good communication skills entail? A lot of things. One of the most important of them all is being able to really listen. While listening skills are often overlooked in a relationship, they are one of the most critical aspects … Read more