Advice
Hello! I’m Heather Daisy, and you might remember me from such films as “What To Do If Your Partner Is Horny” and “What To Do If Your Partner Is Into Breath Play.” Today we explore the wide and wonderful world of TRIGGERS. A trigger is an action, word, emotion, smell or other noun that causes … Read more
A weak point in conversations about consent and consent violation is that we often speak as though only bottoms can be violated (I am not immune to this) when tops are also violated on a fairly regular basis. My theory on why we do this is we have a much clearer picture of what it … Read more
BDSM 101 – the First Aid Kit – an Essential for Your Toy Bag What Do I Put in My BDSM First Aid Kit? by Bea Amor BDSM practitioner should have a first aid kit and taking a first aid course is probably the best idea you could have. I am going to share with … Read more
What BDSM is not I was recently reminded how much I dislike it when people are so passionate about their own opinions that they assume their way is the only right way, and that reminded me of this essay written in 2005. I hope someone out there finds it useful or interesting, and I hope … Read more
What I am writing here is predicated on the desire for a dom and sub to develop a meaningful relationship that can be lasting. Meaning long-term and not just based on short-term physical attraction, purely lustful desires, or kinky curiosities. This is about the conscious and unconscious emotional characteristics that will enable the dominant and … Read more
A friend recently asked me for an opinion of someone I know in the scene. I thought I would post a part of it here on how I approach providing references and vetting other people in my own play. There is no right way, this is what I’ve found works well for me after two … Read more
When learning about personal safety and BDSM you likely hear the word safeword more than once. A safeword is used as a last resort when you need the play you are engaged in to end. But there’s an unintentional negative stigma surrounding using your safeword that needs to be understood. You are not a failure … Read more
Thoughts on Protocol – “The Invisible Leash” by Sir-Marko I consider myself to be a relatively low protocol Dominant, though with the passage of time and a growing maturity in my D/s relationship, that is gradually changing. There is a lot of debate and even more misunderstanding surrounding what protocol is and how it can … Read more