sexual self-awareness: This would be the skill of understanding your own sexuality including (but of course not limited to): gender identification; gender preferences; kinks; fetish’s; Power dynamics etc. It would also include your ability to understand any influences and causes of these preferences/interests and the impact that that these can have on your thoughts, behaviours, … Read more
You’ve read our primer on how to share your fantasies with someone new, now you’re ready to actually act out those fantasies. Here’s what you need to know to help make your fantasies a reality. Make Sure Your Partner Understands Exactly What You Want If you were at all nervous about sharing your fantasy with … Read more
Sometimes sharing your fantasies is as easy as, “hey, I’m into XYZ. Want to do it with me?” But not all of us have that level of comfort with our desires. Here’s how to feel more at ease divulging your fantasies. Get Comfortable with Those Fantasies First It’s really hard to ask someone to do … Read more
Afraid to receive a spanking?? Afraid of the pain of a spanking? Or, are you a spankee or spanker who wants to get the most out of spankings?? Here is the scientific reasons behind spankings. The reason you may ENJOY a spanking. I will discuss the hormones & nerves involved & how to deviously tie … Read more
The Knife [Sharp Tips for Edge Play] by TigerSyr 1. Know your tool, don’t be a fool! Pick a knife that is not too heavy that you can’t wield it. Match sharpness to area of play and what you will be doing with it. Match size to area of play. Big knives are ok for … Read more
The endorphin levels in BDSM- A short primer on sending a submissive into hyperspace. Although everyone into the BDSM scene has heard of endorphins, actually very, very few people really understand what they are, how they work, what the “high” is all about and how one can correctly induce the body to produce them. This … Read more
The BDSM Cult/How to be a Predator by CocoJones My entry into the kink community brought me into immediate contact with scouts for what I like to call the BDSM cult. Recruiters for abusive relationships all under the name of sexual discovery. After several run-ins and some trips down some fairly disturbing paths (ah, … Read more
If you haven’t heard me say this yet, here goes again: being into BDSM doesn’t mean you have to be into sadomasochism or “scening” (engaging in “scenes”). Having scenes doesn’t mean you have to be into sadomasochism either. And finally, being into sadomasochism doesn’t mean you have to be into dominance and submission. The acronym … Read more