BDSM How To’s

SAFER PLAY & SEX INCLUDES HAVING CLEAN TOYS – Informed Risk Is The Key! By Archer & Elegant

Updated 22 May 2014 Copyright 2006 – 2014 Archer & Elegant, Fantasies In Leather, LLC Disinfect and Sanitize are fancy words for clean. Clean is a relative term. ~Sanitize: to free from dirt as by cleaning ~Disinfect: The use of a chemical procedure that eliminates virtually all recognized pathogenic microorganisms but not necessarily all microbial […]

The theory and practice of GINGER FIGGING

The theory and practice of GINGER FIGGING “Figging” is a name for a practice involving the use of ginger root for stimulation. It’s a practice with historical roots; allegedly, this technique was developed during Victorian times as a way to discipline wayward women. In any event, it’s great fun for people who enjoy moderate to fairly […]

HOW TO BE A DOM: The beginners guide in 12 simple-ish steps. by Master_James_

HOW TO BE A DOM: The beginners guide in 12 simple-ish steps. by Master_James_ original post You may have only just found Fetlife, you may have only just found your local Kink community, you may have only just had the epiphany that you are a Dominant. Suddenly, your life all makes sense. The penny has […]

Hanky Codes

This following info is brought to you from http://www.thetwilightguard.org/ The Hanky Code (also known as the handkerchief code, the bandana code, and flagging) is a color-coded system, employed usually among the gay male or practitioners in the leather subculture in the United States, Canada, and Europe, to indicate preferred sexual fetishes, what kind of sex […]

Checklist – communication tool

Filling Out a Fetish/ Kink/ BDSM Checklist – a Guide for New Submissives and Dominants by Bea Amor In all my attempts to advise new submissives, I always tell them to fill out their BDSM/ kink checklist and to fill one out with each new Dominant in order to find out whether they actually fit […]

Changing Your Relationship With Pain by vahavta

Since joining the more public fetish community a bit over a year ago, I’ve frequently received messages – first, from people who’d seen me scene in public, then from people who’d seen pictures of me post-scene on mine or another’s profile – that basically came down to, “teach me to be a masochist like you!! […]

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