BDSM Glossary

the Original Source 24/7: A relationship in which protocols are in place continuously. A: Abrasion – Dictionary term meaning a wearing, grinding, or rubbing away by friction.  In BDSM play this would See also stimulating the surface of the body with abrasive materials such as rough silk, leather, sandpaper, brushes, etc. Age Play – Acting … Read more

SAFER PLAY & SEX INCLUDES HAVING CLEAN TOYS – Informed Risk Is The Key! By Archer & Elegant

Updated 22 May 2014 Copyright 2006 – 2014 Archer & Elegant, Fantasies In Leather, LLC Disinfect and Sanitize are fancy words for clean. Clean is a relative term. ~Sanitize: to free from dirt as by cleaning ~Disinfect: The use of a chemical procedure that eliminates virtually all recognized pathogenic microorganisms but not necessarily all microbial … Read more

The theory and practice of GINGER FIGGING

The theory and practice of GINGER FIGGING “Figging” is a name for a practice involving the use of ginger root for stimulation. It’s a practice with historical roots; allegedly, this technique was developed during Victorian times as a way to discipline wayward women. In any event, it’s great fun for people who enjoy moderate to fairly … Read more

Hanky Codes

This following info is brought to you from http://www.thetwilightguard.org/ The Hanky Code (also known as the handkerchief code, the bandana code, and flagging) is a color-coded system, employed usually among the gay male or practitioners in the leather subculture in the United States, Canada, and Europe, to indicate preferred sexual fetishes, what kind of sex … Read more

Checklist – communication tool

Filling Out a Fetish/ Kink/ BDSM Checklist – a Guide for New Submissives and Dominants by Bea Amor In all my attempts to advise new submissives, I always tell them to fill out their BDSM/ kink checklist and to fill one out with each new Dominant in order to find out whether they actually fit … Read more