Managing head and neck injuries in rope by Miss Doctor

Disclaimer: This writing is intended to serve as a guideline for triaging head and neck injuries that occur during play. If you have any doubts about the safety of the situation, immediately seek professional medical attention. In rope bondage, injuries happen. No matter how experienced you are as a top or bottom, I can pretty … Read more

Purple limbs and rope bondage- when should you worry? – by MissDoctor

I recently received a very good question about this through fet, and I would like to share my thoughts with the community as a whole. There is a lot of concern about limb discoloration in photos and in the dungeon setting from those who are less familiar with rope (and even those who are more … Read more

What To Do If Your Partner Gets Triggered – by Heather_Daisy

Hello! I’m Heather Daisy, and you might remember me from such films as “What To Do If Your Partner Is Horny” and “What To Do If Your Partner Is Into Breath Play.” Today we explore the wide and wonderful world of TRIGGERS. A trigger is an action, word, emotion, smell or other noun that causes … Read more

What BDSM is not By vegasvixen

What BDSM is not I was recently reminded how much I dislike it when people are so passionate about their own opinions that they assume their way is the only right way, and that reminded me of this essay written in 2005. I hope someone out there finds it useful or interesting, and I hope … Read more

Using Your Safeword Is Not a Sign of Failure By lunaKM

When learning about personal safety and BDSM you likely hear the word safeword more than once. A safeword is used as a last resort when you need the play you are engaged in to end. But there’s an unintentional negative stigma surrounding using your safeword that needs to be understood. You are not a failure … Read more

So… You’re Brand Spanking New to the Lifestyle and You Want to be a 24/7 Slave

So here you are. You have submissive and/or slave tendencies. You feel the pull to have someone dominant you, control you, someone to worship and serve, someone who makes you want to grovel and who fills your world. At the same time you want that someone to cherish you. Love you. Embrace and enhance your … Read more

Single in the Scene Part I: Boundaries By charmed blyss

Recently, I was contemplating the situation of being single in the Scene because of an email I received from someone concerning interacting with male dominants. Essentially, she responded to the sexual whims of the men she met online from the space of not having any boundaries set. Part of her inquiry to me was why does … Read more