The Dreaded, but necessary, Disclaimer We poly in mish mash of swinging, poly and openness and we organize our relationships in a hierarchical way. Our marriage is our primary relationship. Our other relationships are our secondary relationships and we refer to the partners of our partners (the ones we are not directly romantically involved with) … Read more
PRIDE and FETISH FLAG GALLERY Common symbols of pride are the rainbow pride flag, the lowercase Greek letter lambda (λ), and the pink and black triangle. This last symbol was reclaimed from use as badges of shame in Nazi concentration camps, and through reappropriation have made these symbols for gay rights. The Greek letter lambda … Read more
Idiot’s guide to service by RideEmWet Service-y types: Hints and Tips Congratulations, you’re now the proud beneficiary of a service-y type. Whether you own, lease, operate, or merely find yourself in temporary care of that service-y type, this guide will suggest a few hints and tips for the use and care of your service-y type. … Read more
Normally I would refrain from writing a post on Fet for numerous reasons, be it my age, my experience, or that I just don’t feel I have anything on my mind that absolutely NEEDS to be put up for the kink world to read. That being said, recently I have seen a few interesting posts … Read more
How to Make It Work – Tools for Healthy Polyamorous Relationships by Brian Frederick 1. Tell the Truth. Lasting relationships are built on trust. Trust is built on honesty. Honesty isn’t hard and it’s a good habit. Bite the bullet, tell the truth. If your relationship can’t weather it, you are in the wrong relationship; … Read more
How to find a partner by rooroo original post A few people have asked me to share the content of the class I taught recently on attracting a partner. Some of this advice is very obviously directly related to finding a partner, while other bits are things that will less directly have an impact on … Read more
Getting into BDSM Part 3: Safety. BDSM is not, in itself, super mega dangerous. It’s like any contact sport–there’s always a risk of an accident, so it’s good to be prepared, but the risk isn’t so high that you should be afraid to try it. And BDSM people are no different than any group of … Read more
TL:DR version: an over reliance on vetting creates a false sense of security that I believe to be incredibly dangerous. We need to recognize the limits of public vetting, and take our own precautions. There are no life guards on duty. Play at your own risk. Once again a member of the Calgary community has … Read more