Safety

Managing head and neck injuries in rope by Miss Doctor

Disclaimer: This writing is intended to serve as a guideline for triaging head and neck injuries that occur during play. If you have any doubts about the safety of the situation, immediately seek professional medical attention. In rope bondage, injuries happen. No matter how experienced you are as a top or bottom, I can pretty […]

SAFER PLAY & SEX INCLUDES HAVING CLEAN TOYS – Informed Risk Is The Key! By Archer & Elegant

Updated 22 May 2014 Copyright 2006 – 2014 Archer & Elegant, Fantasies In Leather, LLC Disinfect and Sanitize are fancy words for clean. Clean is a relative term. ~Sanitize: to free from dirt as by cleaning ~Disinfect: The use of a chemical procedure that eliminates virtually all recognized pathogenic microorganisms but not necessarily all microbial […]

Purple limbs and rope bondage- when should you worry? – by MissDoctor

I recently received a very good question about this through fet, and I would like to share my thoughts with the community as a whole. There is a lot of concern about limb discoloration in photos and in the dungeon setting from those who are less familiar with rope (and even those who are more […]

What’s That You Say? Reading Body Language in Play by Rev

What’s That You Say? Reading Body Language in Play  –  By Rev You’ve heard it said (and if you haven’t, it’s about time you did) that Dominants aren’t mind readers. It’s said for a reason. “Dominant-as-mind-reader” is one of those persistent stereotypes that’s hard to kill and can really cause problems for new and/or isolated […]

What To Do If Your Partner Gets Triggered – by Heather_Daisy

Hello! I’m Heather Daisy, and you might remember me from such films as “What To Do If Your Partner Is Horny” and “What To Do If Your Partner Is Into Breath Play.” Today we explore the wide and wonderful world of TRIGGERS. A trigger is an action, word, emotion, smell or other noun that causes […]

What Does it Look Like When a Top’s Consent is Violated? by Ariadne

A weak point in conversations about consent and consent violation is that we often speak as though only bottoms can be violated (I am not immune to this) when tops are also violated on a fairly regular basis. My theory on why we do this is we have a much clearer picture of what it […]

What BDSM is not By vegasvixen

What BDSM is not I was recently reminded how much I dislike it when people are so passionate about their own opinions that they assume their way is the only right way, and that reminded me of this essay written in 2005. I hope someone out there finds it useful or interesting, and I hope […]

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