HOW TO BE A DOM: The beginners guide in 12 simple-ish steps. by Master_James_ original post You may have only just found Fetlife, you may have only just found your local Kink community, you may have only just had the epiphany that you are a Dominant. Suddenly, your life all makes sense. The penny has … Read more
How not to be shitty at parties – voyeurs and exhibitionists edition SecondCircleTO original post I’m putting this here, on the events profile, because this is a thing that profoundly irks me, and I want people who go to our events to get it – and the vast majority of you do. Also, for the … Read more
This following info is brought to you from http://www.thetwilightguard.org/ The Hanky Code (also known as the handkerchief code, the bandana code, and flagging) is a color-coded system, employed usually among the gay male or practitioners in the leather subculture in the United States, Canada, and Europe, to indicate preferred sexual fetishes, what kind of sex … Read more
Getting into BDSM Part 3: Safety. BDSM is not, in itself, super mega dangerous. It’s like any contact sport–there’s always a risk of an accident, so it’s good to be prepared, but the risk isn’t so high that you should be afraid to try it. And BDSM people are no different than any group of … Read more
TL:DR version: an over reliance on vetting creates a false sense of security that I believe to be incredibly dangerous. We need to recognize the limits of public vetting, and take our own precautions. There are no life guards on duty. Play at your own risk. Once again a member of the Calgary community has … Read more
There are times where I don’t feel like being a slave. I look around the apartment and see what needs to be done, dishes, laundry, dinner prep, grocery shopping and I think to myself I really don’t wanna do any of it. Daddy will give me errands to run and even though I’m nodding my head … Read more
I am sure there are hundreds, more likely thousands, of writings on communication but yet we, as a society, struggle with it every single day in all parts of our lives. Communication is the Golden Key. No matter how long, or how short, your time within the BDSM lifestyle is, communication which is open and … Read more
Collaring is the expression used by people in the D/s lifestyle to describe the beginning of a relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. A formal collaring ceremony which is the final step, is akin to a wedding and denotes the same level and depth of commitment between the two people involved. There are various … Read more