This is an article I wrote for “Power Lines” back in 1998, it’s somewhat dated now but I’m still surprised how many requests I get to repost it. Since I have space here to do it, I thought I might as well for convenience sake. It still expresses some philosphies and opinions I hold personally … Read more
The 40 Red Flags The following are warnings that a potential Dom may not be all that you think they are. Please be careful if the potential Dom: 1) Tries to separate you from your friends, family or BDSM community. 2) Avoids talking about personal details. Gets mad when you ask or quickly ends the … Read more
Ten ways to tell a bullshit artist from the real thing– MasterKAOS This writing pertains mostly to new subs that are seeking a dom, but most of the information can be applied in both directions with slight modifications and can be helpful no matter how long you have been active. …So, you just met your … Read more
What’s the difference between a protocol and a ritual? Even experienced people in the lifestyle can get tripped up on this one, but there are a few basic differences that will allow you to rapidly tell the two apart. A ritual: Is an action that is repeated the same way each time, usually at some … Read more
Something so simple, is consistently forgotten by those all over the scene. There are many aspects to what such a thing is and many ways to go about doing it. Regular contact isn’t just getting together for a beating and communication isn’t just the message sent to conduct said beating. Communication covers all things, such … Read more
So here you are. You have submissive and/or slave tendencies. You feel the pull to have someone dominant you, control you, someone to worship and serve, someone who makes you want to grovel and who fills your world. At the same time you want that someone to cherish you. Love you. Embrace and enhance your … Read more
How to spot a psychological manipulator,.. Psychological manipulation can be defined as the exercise of undue influence through mental distortion and emotional exploitation, with the intention to seize power, control, benefits, and privileges at the victim’s expense. It is important to distinguish healthy social influence from psychological manipulation. Healthy social influence occurs between most people, … Read more
In the lifestyle, we talk a lot about the importance of good communication skills. What do good communication skills entail? A lot of things. One of the most important of them all is being able to really listen. While listening skills are often overlooked in a relationship, they are one of the most critical aspects … Read more