10 things to never do with your new to poly or monogamous partner when you are Poly.

  10.Send them unsolicited articles that rave about how great being Poly is. I know you think you mean well, but its just a passive form of shoving it down their throat. Let them figure out for them if this works, Its ok to offer suggestions or to recommend various media source but dont force … Read more

Aftercare for the D

It’s been a while since I wrote my last post for “Attention for the D”. Life happens sometimes… But I would like to pick this back up, because this information is important and I love sharing with you. So here is the next one: Aftercare for the D. Now, most of you are aware that … Read more

What To Do If Your Partner Gets Triggered – by Heather_Daisy

Hello! I’m Heather Daisy, and you might remember me from such films as “What To Do If Your Partner Is Horny” and “What To Do If Your Partner Is Into Breath Play.” Today we explore the wide and wonderful world of TRIGGERS. A trigger is an action, word, emotion, smell or other noun that causes … Read more

What BDSM is not By vegasvixen

What BDSM is not I was recently reminded how much I dislike it when people are so passionate about their own opinions that they assume their way is the only right way, and that reminded me of this essay written in 2005. I hope someone out there finds it useful or interesting, and I hope … Read more

Taking care of your property, so your property can take care of you by Mr. Blu

Something so simple, is consistently forgotten by those all over the scene. There are many aspects to what such a thing is and many ways to go about doing it. Regular contact isn’t just getting together for a beating and communication isn’t just the message sent to conduct said beating. Communication covers all things, such … Read more

Single in the Scene Part I: Boundaries By charmed blyss

Recently, I was contemplating the situation of being single in the Scene because of an email I received from someone concerning interacting with male dominants. Essentially, she responded to the sexual whims of the men she met online from the space of not having any boundaries set. Part of her inquiry to me was why does … Read more