Play Technique
Updated 22 May 2014 Copyright 2006 – 2014 Archer & Elegant, Fantasies In Leather, LLC Disinfect and Sanitize are fancy words for clean. Clean is a relative term. ~Sanitize: to free from dirt as by cleaning ~Disinfect: The use of a chemical procedure that eliminates virtually all recognized pathogenic microorganisms but not necessarily all microbial … Read more
I recently received a very good question about this through fet, and I would like to share my thoughts with the community as a whole. There is a lot of concern about limb discoloration in photos and in the dungeon setting from those who are less familiar with rope (and even those who are more … Read more
What’s That You Say? Reading Body Language in Play – By Rev You’ve heard it said (and if you haven’t, it’s about time you did) that Dominants aren’t mind readers. It’s said for a reason. “Dominant-as-mind-reader” is one of those persistent stereotypes that’s hard to kill and can really cause problems for new and/or isolated … Read more
The Ultimate Thrill Ride: Ten Tips for BDSM Safety By Joey W. Hill, 11/20/2012 There is a growing interest in bondage in the bedroom, and many of my readers are giving it a try in an effort to spice up their sex lives. It’s fun and feels a little bit dangerous, like a roller coaster, … Read more
The theory and practice of GINGER FIGGING “Figging” is a name for a practice involving the use of ginger root for stimulation. It’s a practice with historical roots; allegedly, this technique was developed during Victorian times as a way to discipline wayward women. In any event, it’s great fun for people who enjoy moderate to fairly … Read more
Afraid to receive a spanking?? Afraid of the pain of a spanking? Or, are you a spankee or spanker who wants to get the most out of spankings?? Here is the scientific reasons behind spankings. The reason you may ENJOY a spanking. I will discuss the hormones & nerves involved & how to deviously tie … Read more
If you haven’t heard me say this yet, here goes again: being into BDSM doesn’t mean you have to be into sadomasochism or “scening” (engaging in “scenes”). Having scenes doesn’t mean you have to be into sadomasochism either. And finally, being into sadomasochism doesn’t mean you have to be into dominance and submission. The acronym … Read more
In the lifestyle, we talk a lot about the importance of good communication skills. What do good communication skills entail? A lot of things. One of the most important of them all is being able to really listen. While listening skills are often overlooked in a relationship, they are one of the most critical aspects … Read more