Play Technique

SAFER PLAY & SEX INCLUDES HAVING CLEAN TOYS – Informed Risk Is The Key! By Archer & Elegant

Updated 22 May 2014 Copyright 2006 – 2014 Archer & Elegant, Fantasies In Leather, LLC Disinfect and Sanitize are fancy words for clean. Clean is a relative term. ~Sanitize: to free from dirt as by cleaning ~Disinfect: The use of a chemical procedure that eliminates virtually all recognized pathogenic microorganisms but not necessarily all microbial […]

Purple limbs and rope bondage- when should you worry? – by MissDoctor

I recently received a very good question about this through fet, and I would like to share my thoughts with the community as a whole. There is a lot of concern about limb discoloration in photos and in the dungeon setting from those who are less familiar with rope (and even those who are more […]

What’s That You Say? Reading Body Language in Play by Rev

What’s That You Say? Reading Body Language in Play  –  By Rev You’ve heard it said (and if you haven’t, it’s about time you did) that Dominants aren’t mind readers. It’s said for a reason. “Dominant-as-mind-reader” is one of those persistent stereotypes that’s hard to kill and can really cause problems for new and/or isolated […]

What Does it Look Like When a Top’s Consent is Violated? by Ariadne

A weak point in conversations about consent and consent violation is that we often speak as though only bottoms can be violated (I am not immune to this) when tops are also violated on a fairly regular basis. My theory on why we do this is we have a much clearer picture of what it […]

The theory and practice of GINGER FIGGING

The theory and practice of GINGER FIGGING “Figging” is a name for a practice involving the use of ginger root for stimulation. It’s a practice with historical roots; allegedly, this technique was developed during Victorian times as a way to discipline wayward women. In any event, it’s great fun for people who enjoy moderate to fairly […]

The Science Behind Spanking (why spankings are enjoyable) by SouthrnGentleman

Afraid to receive a spanking??  Afraid of the pain of a spanking? Or, are you a spankee or spanker who wants to get the most out of spankings?? Here is the scientific reasons behind spankings. The reason you may ENJOY a spanking. I will discuss the hormones & nerves involved & how to deviously tie […]

The Anatomy of a Scene By Rev

If you haven’t heard me say this yet, here goes again: being into BDSM doesn’t mean you have to be into sadomasochism or “scening” (engaging in “scenes”). Having scenes doesn’t mean you have to be into sadomasochism either. And finally, being into sadomasochism doesn’t mean you have to be into dominance and submission. The acronym […]

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