Since joining the more public fetish community a bit over a year ago, I’ve frequently received messages – first, from people who’d seen me scene in public, then from people who’d seen pictures of me post-scene on mine or another’s profile – that basically came down to, “teach me to be a masochist like you!! … Read more
BDSM Safety and Common Sense Note: This is not intended as a “safe-sex” site. There are plenty of those available elsewhere on the Web. The focus of this page is narrower; it’s intended as a general, common-sense safety guide for newcomers to BDSM. General Guidelines • If you are going to play with bondage or … Read more
BDSM 101: Subspace, Aftercare, and Sub-drop (and sometimes Top-drop) Dr Dexter SUBSPACE Within the context of BDSM, “subspace” is a an altered psychological state that is often entered into by the person bottoming in a scene. It is not easy to characterize, because each person’s reactions to BDSM play can be quite different — and … Read more
BDSM 101 – How to Survive Sub Drop After that Kinky Scene Last Week A Submissive’s Guide to Recovery Bea Amor Remember the last time you played with that delightful new dominant and the scene was so great that you floated for three whole days. Nothing in the world could have bothered you and life … Read more
Hello! I’m Heather Daisy, and you might remember me from such films as “What To Do If Your Partner Is Horny” and “What To Do If Your Partner Is Into Breath Play.” Today we explore the wide and wonderful world of TRIGGERS. A trigger is an action, word, emotion, smell or other noun that causes … Read more
A few weeks ago, there was a vanilla event that I had the opportunity to volunteer with. It seemed like hundreds of people poured into the building to hear the speaker. There were some key points that he covered, but the one that stood out to me the most was that of contentment. He said … Read more
When I first came to the community, I, as well as others like me, was a bit of a unicorn. During that time, it wasn’t the norm to see younger people in the community – younger as in under 36 or so. Most of the people I knew were 40+, and there I was in … Read more
There are times where I don’t feel like being a slave. I look around the apartment and see what needs to be done, dishes, laundry, dinner prep, grocery shopping and I think to myself I really don’t wanna do any of it. Daddy will give me errands to run and even though I’m nodding my head … Read more