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Filling Out a Fetish/ Kink/ BDSM Checklist – a Guide for New Submissives and Dominants by Bea Amor In all my attempts to advise new submissives, I always tell them to fill out their BDSM/ kink checklist and to fill one out with each new Dominant in order to find out whether they actually fit … Read more
Since joining the more public fetish community a bit over a year ago, I’ve frequently received messages – first, from people who’d seen me scene in public, then from people who’d seen pictures of me post-scene on mine or another’s profile – that basically came down to, “teach me to be a masochist like you!! … Read more
BDSM Safety and Common Sens Note: This is not intended as a “safe-sex” site. There are plenty of those available elsewhere on the Web. The focus of this page is narrower; it’s intended as a general, common-sense safety guide for newcomers to BDSM. General Guidelines • If you are going to play with bondage or … Read more
TL:DR version: an over reliance on vetting creates a false sense of security that I believe to be incredibly dangerous. We need to recognize the limits of public vetting, and take our own precautions. There are no life guards on duty. Play at your own risk. Once again a member of the Calgary community has … Read more
Evaluating Your Rigger! by clover Before you evaluate your rigger you need to stop and evaluate yourself. You are what will keep you safe, ultimately you can only rely on yourself. •Know your body’s limits. You do not have to be an experience rope bottom to know this. When you are faced with your limit … Read more
What is Emotional Abuse? Abuse is any behavior that is designed to control and subjugate another human being through the use of fear, humiliation, intimidation, guilt, coercion, manipulation etc. Emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to … Read more
Eight Easy Ways to Spot an Emotional Manipulator Written by Fiona McColl Emotional manipulators get extra marks for subtlety. A patronizing, mind-fucker can bend and twist and warp but somehow after a period of time they set off the ol’ bullshit meter. An emotional manipulator is smoother. You’ll have to adjust the sensitivity of your … Read more
Recently I attended a small play party. It was afterwards I decided that perhaps some folks might need a little guidance or suggestion on how to go about getting/seeking/asking for “play” appropriately in these social situations. Let me begin by stating that I understand that attending any type of party or event can be extremely … Read more