10.Send them unsolicited articles that rave about how great being Poly is. I know you think you mean well, but its just a passive form of shoving it down their throat. Let them figure out for them if this works, Its ok to offer suggestions or to recommend various media source but dont force … Read more
It’s been a while since I wrote my last post for “Attention for the D”. Life happens sometimes… But I would like to pick this back up, because this information is important and I love sharing with you. So here is the next one: Aftercare for the D. Now, most of you are aware that … Read more
Hello! I’m Heather Daisy, and you might remember me from such films as “What To Do If Your Partner Is Horny” and “What To Do If Your Partner Is Into Breath Play.” Today we explore the wide and wonderful world of TRIGGERS. A trigger is an action, word, emotion, smell or other noun that causes … Read more
We often hear people in the scene talking about this Master or that Mistress, this Dom or that Domme, we hear good things and bad things, things to make our hair stand on end, things to make us laugh and things to make us cry. Of course believing everything bad you hear, is not a … Read more
A weak point in conversations about consent and consent violation is that we often speak as though only bottoms can be violated (I am not immune to this) when tops are also violated on a fairly regular basis. My theory on why we do this is we have a much clearer picture of what it … Read more
Recently, I was contemplating the situation of being single in the Scene because of an email I received from someone concerning interacting with male dominants. Essentially, she responded to the sexual whims of the men she met online from the space of not having any boundaries set. Part of her inquiry to me was why does … Read more
BDSM for Beginners – Safewords Red, Yellow, Green Are Just Words and Mean NOTHING by Themselves! by Caged Heart Beginning Explorers in the BDSM World hear a lot of advice from more experienced ‘players’. Unfortunately, a lot of that advice is worth nothing more than it costs…NOTHING. A person new to BDSM might hear, “Oh, … Read more
Just so I can point people here for reference, here are some common definitions of different sexualities/romantic orientations. Sexual Orientation – based on the gender(s) that you are sexually attracted to (people who you want to have intercourse with, etc.) Romantic Orientation – based on the gender(s) that you are romantically attracted to (people who you want … Read more