Advice
When you first enter “The Scene,” you will meet a lot of new people who all seem awesome. You will be invited to munches, encouraged to attend events, and welcomed to more than a couple discussion groups. This is all great! It can also be overwhelming. It can lead to what I call “Community Frenzy.” … Read more
This is a Journal entry from Malbon’s writings on Fetlife. Munches are just great aren’t they? A free social event where you can meet other kinky people, maybe even find that elusive compatible partner. The door is open, and you are welcome. But it didn’t work out so well, did it? You felt left out, … Read more
Munch Etiquette When people ask how to become involved in kink or how to learn, the first thing they are told is “go to a munch!” Munches are a great first step, but like all first steps, they can be intimidating if you don’t know what to expect or how to behave. What is a … Read more
Miss Bitch’s Guide to Dungeon Etiquette – the Revival You can deny all you want that there is etiquette, and a lot of people do in everyday life. But if you behave in a way that offends the people you’re trying to deal with, they will stop dealing with you… ~ Judith Martin, aka Miss … Read more
Since writing my last post, I’ve gotten a lot of messages from newbies asking me, “How do I tell the difference between someone who really wants to help me, and someone who is a predator, an exploiter, someone who just wants to take advantage of me?” The short answer is: it’s not easy. If you … Read more
It’s your first munch, eh? I bet you’re thinking… by ThoughtsofYou ORGY! ORGY! [- newbie] Whoa, slow your roll. [- oldie] Firstly, it’s nice to meet you and thanks for coming. I just want to clear some things up… Kink has a lot of reputations — good, bad, wrong and inexplicable. orgyyyyy Haha, yeah… Munches … Read more
Idiot’s guide to service by RideEmWet Service-y types: Hints and Tips Congratulations, you’re now the proud beneficiary of a service-y type. Whether you own, lease, operate, or merely find yourself in temporary care of that service-y type, this guide will suggest a few hints and tips for the use and care of your service-y type. … Read more
I shouldn’t have to tell you…Wyckeds_monkey Many moons ago outside of a private party I heard a submissive tell her Master, “I shouldn’t have to tell you what I want”. At the time I shrugged it off, not fully understanding the communication that’s required for a fruitful, working, involved relationship. How wrong she was! Communication … Read more