Play Technique
Below are listed some negotiation questions I use as a top to better learn about my bottoms, their character, and their interest in play. It took me the better part of a year to figure out these questions, as some of my play partners might note that early negotiations with me consisted mostly of health … Read more
BDSM for Beginners – Safewords Red, Yellow, Green Are Just Words and Mean NOTHING by Themselves! by Caged Heart Beginning Explorers in the BDSM World hear a lot of advice from more experienced ‘players’. Unfortunately, a lot of that advice is worth nothing more than it costs…NOTHING. A person new to BDSM might hear, “Oh, … Read more
NO is a safeword – unless you negotiate otherwise– Moon_Dancer I hate the phrase “no is not a safeword” and have found myself the victim of non-consensual violence with this used as an excuse. The only time no is not a safeword is when participating in negotiated consensual non-consent. I think we have forgotten what … Read more
In the lifestyle, we talk a lot about the importance of good communication skills. What do good communication skills entail? A lot of things. One of the most important of them all is being able to really listen. While listening skills are often overlooked in a relationship, they are one of the most critical aspects … Read more
Filling Out a Fetish/ Kink/ BDSM Checklist – a Guide for New Submissives and Dominants by Bea Amor In all my attempts to advise new submissives, I always tell them to fill out their BDSM/ kink checklist and to fill one out with each new Dominant in order to find out whether they actually fit … Read more
Since joining the more public fetish community a bit over a year ago, I’ve frequently received messages – first, from people who’d seen me scene in public, then from people who’d seen pictures of me post-scene on mine or another’s profile – that basically came down to, “teach me to be a masochist like you!! … Read more
Since joining the more public fetish community a bit over a year ago, I’ve frequently received messages – first, from people who’d seen me scene in public, then from people who’d seen pictures of me post-scene on mine or another’s profile – that basically came down to, “teach me to be a masochist like you!! … Read more